Proving infidelity at divorce court easier

A court in Beijing is helping couples to fight infidelity by making it easier for a spouse to press charges against their partner.

The Haidian court will allocate more time to investigate cases of infidelity if the complainant can provide pictures, e-mails or text messages of their partner in intimate relations with another person, said judge Zhang Xuan.

Previously the court would only continue a case if it had strong evidence such as documents to prove cohabitation or sexual intercourse, Zhang said.

When a partner tries to prove his or her innocence, it’s possible for them to undergo a medical examination to prove if sex took place outside of their marriage, Zhang said.

But doctors at Peking hospital say the exam must be performed within 48 hours of sexual activity to be valid.

Doctors take a sperm sample and check activity to determine if the man has ejaculated recently. The case of women is much stronger because the hospital will check any sperm remaining in her vagina against her husband’s by using DNA techniques.

In April, a 43-year-old woman surnamed Hu sued her husband, surnamed Xue, at Haidian district court for infidelity. She also applied for divorce.

Hu presented photos of her husband with a young woman, as well as e-mails and short messages, to the court and demanded 180,000 yuan in compensation for mental damages.

Xue denied he had an affair, saying the compensation was unreasonable, and Xue refused to divorce Hu.

Hu made a court request for Xue to undergo a medical examination to prove that he was guilty. Xue agreed.

The medical examination report said: “Xue has had no sexual relationship within 48 hours, based on his sperm activity level.”

Zhang said the court strongly valued the medical examination and this prompted the couple to withdraw the case with fears of damaging their personal reputations.

From January to October, the court dealt with 2,764 divorce cases, of which 995 were triggered by extramarital affairs, according to court statistics.

Zhang said collecting relevant evidence of extramarital affairs is often difficult because the court does not accept photos obtained without permission.

“In order to protect women’s rights, we prefer the idea of stating in court that there has been ‘cold domestic violence’ as a way to support divorce request lawsuits,” she said.

Zhang said that in previous divorce lawsuits, the court always made its decision based on whether or not the couple’s emotional connection had broken down.

However, this is usually difficult to prove. Some women sue their husbands in court and apply for divorce by claiming that their husbands are showing affectionate apathy towards them, but again it is hard to prove, Zhang said.

The court said about 60 percent of citizens involved in divorce proceedings hold at least a bachelor’s degree, and men more than twice as likely to have an affair than women.

This phenomenon is largely due to men generally having higher degrees than their wives, and holding managerial positions in well-paid industries such as finance or technology.

Women play supporting roles at home and this creates an imbalance of power. According to the court, affairs frequently occur in relationships when the couples both work and travel as a result of highly paid jobs.

bron: www.chinadaily.com.cn [9-12-2009]

Jingjing to take the plunge with Fok

OLYMPIC gold medallist Guo Jingjing is going to put an end to her diving career and will get married.

The 28-year-old Chinese diving queen is said to wed her boyfriend Kenneth Fok Kai-kong after the East Asian Games, being held in Hong Kong from Dec 5 to 13.

Fok is the grandson of the late Hong Kong tycoon Henry Fok Ying-tung. He has been dating Guo for four years.

His father Timothy Fok Tsun-ting, who is the vice-president of the Hong Kong East Asian Games organising committee, had slipped off his mouth about the marriage in an interview recently.

Timothy said the family would go into preparing the wedding for the couple after the games, reported China’s Sina Net.

When asked by the media, Fok said he would inform them once the event is confirmed.

It is learnt he has been undergoing a diet programme to be in the best appearance for the wedding. He has lost 10kg so far. Guo will only arrive in the Special Administrative Region on Dec 12, a day before her competition.

She is entered for only one event – the women’s three-metre synchronised diving with Wu Minxia. It is learnt she has applied with the national diving team to retire from her diving career of 21 years and this East Asian Games would be her last competition.

It was reported that she would take up a masters course at Beijing Sport University after her retirement.

Her good friend Wang Feng, however, said he did not know about the wedding. ‘I have not receive her invitation,’ said the Chinese diving athlete.

Guo, who is known as The Princess of Diving, has won more than 25 gold medals for her country.

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South Korea scraps sex trick laws

South Korea has thrown out a half-century old law banning men from falsely promising marriage in return for sex.

A court has ruled the code violated women’s sexual freedom and that the law should not interfere in such matters, reports The Sun. Men who tricked their girlfriends into having sex had previously up to a two years in prison or a fine of more than £2,000.

The law was scrapped following appeals made by two men who had recently been reprimanded. A final verdict read: “The government should refrain from interfering in men’s sexual activities of tempting women in an unharmful manner.”

A court spokesman said the verdict meant the 56-year-old law was immediately abolished and that all men penalised under the law could be acquitted and receive state compensation.

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Divorce because of cake

 

A Chinese man can’t take it no more that he has to eat cake 3 times a day and threatens with a divorce.

Cheng Yu (31) from Beijing was forced by his wife to eat cake with each meal.

In the beginning he didn’t complain, because he rather liked it, but now he gets sick of it. “Fruitcake, chocolatecake, I feel like the trash can of a cake bakery”, the man explains.

Cheng is threatening to divorce his wife Tian Mae (27) if she doesn’t stop baking cakes, according to Metro News.

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Three divorces in three years for Chinese woman

In China a 28-year-old woman has lost her confidence in marriage.

The woman has had three divorces in three years. The unfortunate woman married for the first time in 2005 just a few days after she finished her studies. “Two years after our marriage I got fed up with him and filed a divorce.”

But only a few months later she married for the second time, and in less than six months after that, that fairytail ended as well. And just when people thought things couldn’t go any faster than that: last year she married for the third time, but just after three months the woman is single again. The woman is now looking for some one who can make a marriage succeed.

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Man is allergic to his wife

In England: A South Yorkshire man claims to be allergic to his wife and says he comes out in a rash whenever he goes near her.

Body cream /Rex  Darren Young, 45, is allergic to a component regularly used in common creams and body lotions, reports The Sun. His heart rate soars – and could even stop – and his body swells if he comes into contact with the chemical, known as polyethylene glycol.

Mr Young, a bus driver from Sprotbrough, says he cannot get close to his wife Sue unless she is free of all creams.  He said: “When it comes to bedtime Sue doesn’t need a headache as an excuse. She just says she has been using body lotion and it might kill me.

“It’s not just Sue – I can get a reaction if I go into a pub or a restaurant where a woman has been sitting. The doctors don’t really know why it has suddenly happened.”

Mr Young discovered his allergy when he was given a steroid injection containing polyethylene glycol to treat a problem with his foot. His face swelled up, he heart stopped and he had to be resuscitated. He now has to be careful of what he touches and constantly carry medication.

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Naked cheat gets frozen out

A LOVE cheat balances naked and shivering on an air conditioning vent after being caught romping with another man’s wife.

[picture: cheat is abused by husband after escaping out window]

Sun Meng, 25, fled outside with the husband yelling abuse from his apartment window. This photo was taken by a neighbour – then posted on a local community website.

Sun said in Chengdu (成都), central China: “People are even laughing at how I look naked. But I must point out it was a very cold day.”

Bron: www.thesun.co.uk [31-10-2009]

Vicki Zhao’s mystery man revealed

Chinese actress Vicki Zhao who was reportedly engaged in August, has not just snagged herself a new hubby, but also a son.

However, contrary to reports that she was set to marry a Singaporean businessman, the “Red Cliff” actress’ new man is actually Chinese property magnate Huang You Long who has an eight-year-old son.

30-year-old Huang who is known for his Casanova ways, was engaged to former Hong Kong beauty queen Tracy Ip when he was introduced to Zhao – ironically – by his then fiancé.

According to Hong Kong’s Next magazine, the Miss Hong Kong 2005 winner was engaged to marry Huang just months after meeting him but postponed the nuptials to focus on her hosting preparations for the 2008 Beijing Olympics.

In her absence, Zhao and Huang clicked immediately and the 33-year-old actress was impressed with his generosity and a willingness to start a family.

Last September, Zhao was photographed having dinner with Huang after a publicity event for her movie “Painted Skin”. The pair left the restaurant a couple of hours later but Zhao was apparently drunk by then and was seen holding on to Huang for support.

Chinese websites reported that the pair then headed for a late night karaoke session and stayed there till the next morning.

Of late, Huang has been spending a considerable amount of time in France and Zhao reportedly flew over to accompany him after attending the Cannes Film Festival this May.

Eventually, the calling of love proved too strong for Zhao as she became the third party between Ip and Huang’s relationship. The couple reportedly travelled to Singapore in August this year to register their marriage.

Meanwhile, apart from losing her fiancé, Ip is facing the possibility of losing her money.

After their breakup, Huang told Ip to return all the profits she earned – more than 10 million yuan (S$2 million) – from her investments using capital from him.

Ip who was heartbroken after the split, has suffered drastic weight loss and had to seek refuge in Britain for a month to fully recuperate before heading back to Hong Kong.

When the Hong Kong media informed her about Zhao and Huang’s marriage, she appeared surprised and told the press to “convey her congratulations to them”.

When asked if she is angry with Zhao, Ip replied, “I’m very happy right now.”

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Is Chinese actress Vicki Zhao engaged?

Is Vicki Zhao (simp赵薇trad趙薇) going to tie the knot? According to Hong Kong reports, the answer is a resounding YES – the Chinese actress is engaged to a multi-millionaire businessman from China.
[Vicki Zhao Wei]
The 33-year-old actress, who has been in the spotlight in recent months about her wedding plans, was reported to be engaged to a Chinese businessman, only known by his surname Huang, and is a well-known figure in the property industry.

Their relationship hit headlines after workers from Huang’s company spilled the beans. According to the employees, Zhao has been making frequent appearances during the company’s dinner functions as Huang’s partner. Some witnesses pointed out Zhao tends to appear demure and shy in the presence of Huang.

The Hong Kong media described Huang as an average looker, standing around 170 centimetres tall. Apart from his property dealings, he also owns a construction-material factory and is reportedly worth hundred of millions.

Zhao deliberately kept a low profile when she turned up at the Tokyo International Film Festival on Saturday and was not spotted with an engagement ring even though she was decked with a set of diamond necklace and bracelet.

Reporters’ attempts to contact both Zhao and her manager were futile as both their mobile phones were switched off.

Last month, Zhao was rumoured to be tying the knot with a Singaporean businessman, known as Marco, and was planning to register their marriage in Singapore. Her manager later denied the reports and commented that she did not know who Marco was.

Zhao remained tight-lipped over the matter and she only recently disclosed that she has already made up her mind in regard to her choice of partner.

In the meantime, her previous rumoured relationship with Chinese table tennis player and Olympic gold medalist Wang Liqin has become a talking point. The pair, who has always maintained that they are only friends, was spotted by security guards holding hands and walking in and out of a Shanghai apartment.

Vicki Zhao Wei is considered one of the “Four Young Dan actresses” in China (四小花旦), along with Xu Jinglei, Zhang Ziyi and Zhou Xun
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Saudi woman requests for divorce after husband nicknames her Guantanamo

A Saudi woman filed for divorce after discovering by chance that her husband gave her name “Guantanamo” on his mobile phone, reports newspaper al-Watan.

The newspaper said the woman, aged 30 and living in the city of Jeddah, saw this after her husband left the phone at home.

The furious wife filed for divorce, arguing that by assigning such a nickname, the husband saw her as a tyrannical person and she could no longer continue to live with him after 17 years of marriage

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